Dear Michael: My daughter married a jerk

Michael Serode

Dear Michael,

Can you help? My daughter-in-law needs fashion help, and she doesn’t have a clue.

First of all, this woman is fat, not pleasantly plump. Over the years she has really put on the pounds. She has poor health habits and is a nonstop grazer, a two-helpings eater. She doesn’t cook much, and the family is subjected to a lot of junk food and pre-packaged meals. Sadly, she has become the elephant in the room.

Her weight issue is one subject I have avoided talking to her about when she is at my home. I certainly can’t limit her food intake. Her parents live close by and it could be uncomfortable were I to raise the subject. I don’t want to be a meddlesome mother-in-law, but I would like to help. I am concerned about her health and the family’s health habits, but I dare not say anything as to offend or alienate this family I love.

I have become quite been sensitive to her appearance over the past several years. Because she is youngish, my daughter-in-law likes to dress with the trends. If she could only find clothes that would flatter or minimize her figure! Due to her size and ill-fitting clothing, she looks sloppy and unattractive. Her low-cut necklines invite the world to take a peek. From all appearances she wears little to nothing for undergarments, preferring the thong.

Unfortunately, I have overheard remarks and noticed raised eyebrows whenever she is in public. My extended family and friends have politely kept their mouths shut and eyes averted. It is extremely difficult for my husband, my father, and the men of the family to see so much of this woman exposed. For the women in the family it is equally embarrassing. If I approached my son, I don’t know how he would react. Clearly she needs to know that she needs to dress more appropriately.