Sometimes we just need to take a break, whether it’s from a litany of commitments and chores or the mental gymnastics we put ourselves through on a daily basis (we know who we are) or from something as simple (and as overwhelming) as the news and social media. Sometimes, our souls just need a rest.
And given that I’ve already heard Christmas music in stores and seen the trees and ornaments stacked for sale, I think October is a glorious time to inhale and just take it all in. Because, seriously people, it will be holiday-palooza before we know it.
It’s easy to feel like this life is just one giant to-do list as we race from season to season. Whether we’re rushing kids from here to there, putting in extra hours at work, or Pinterest-ing ourselves to death to create some perfect moment, life can be downright busy.
A dear friend and mentor once said to me, “Instead of saying ‘I don’t have time for that’, instead say ‘It’s not important to me.’” I’m just going to leave that there for a minute and let it sink in.
What she was advocating is that this wheel of busy we are all on is filled with choices. When we tell ourselves things like we don’t have time, what we are really saying is that thing/commitment/effort is not important to me. Ouch. That was a hard one for me.
But if we are honest, we really don’t have time for all of the things we could take on. And most of us have likely taken on lots of things without really thinking about if it’s important to us. Whether it’s from guilt, a sense of duty or out of habit, it’s super easy to say Yes and way harder to say No.
It’s curious that the thing that we most often say No to is making time for ourselves. Sometimes in our culture it’s easy to feel like making time for ourselves is selfish. In the faith culture I grew up in, putting yourself first was not only wrong it was a sign of a weak character. Oh my stars how sad this makes me to think of this now, and how I hope with all of my heart that we aren’t still instilling this in our young ones.
Listen, I’m not suggesting that you sign up for narcissist 101, I’m simply suggesting that you take time to feed your soul, fill up your cup, soak up some gratitude, care for who you are, and dream of where you want to go. Give yourself permission to say, “Yes, I am important.”
For me, it’s the simplest of things like planting myself on the porch with a good book and a cup of mint tea or listening to my favorite podcast or music while I weed the garden. It’s brushing a horse or trying yoga (which also leads to much laughing). It’s making time for storytelling and cooking and crafting. It’s simply sitting side-by-side with Cowboy and talking about life. Those things fill me up.
Here’s what we all know deep down inside, when we are broken and tired, we can’t give our best and quirky selves to those we love most. And while it sounds dramatic (cue music), the world really does need us to be our best selves, for all of our sakes.
So as you bask in the bluer skies and golden sunlight of October, think about what you will say Yes to and put yourself at the top of your to-do list. Whether it’s making time to read a good book, meeting up with a friend who makes you laugh, or spending time in nature (like Dinosaur Valley State Park or Fossil Rim Wildlife Center - our town really does have the best), take some time for a soul break.
Tammy Ammon is a Somervell County resident, blogger, farmgirl, wife, and mom to a gaggle of fur-kids. She shares her rarely graceful, sometimes challenging, and always hilarious farm life on her blog – myfarmtasticlife.com. Contact her via email at firstname.lastname@example.org.