SARA VANDEN BERGE

In the civilized world, civilized people are scratching their heads and wondering how to keep up with the growing horror of insta-everything.

The age of cell phones and the Internet is making life impossible to keep up with. I donít know if I should answer the call, reply to the text or tell the masses how Iím doing by way of Facebook at any given hour.

And just when I was considering tweeting (or is it twittering?), something happened in that new genre that made me say, um, never mind.

Meet Penelope Trunk, 42-year-old chief executive of a blog called Brazen Careerist, a place where women can find advice about balancing work and family.

Trunk caused a stir recently when she tweeted from a board meeting that she was, gulp, having a miscarriage.

Privacy issues aside, what got Trunk in trouble was the tone of her tweet, one that many considered celebratory given the fact that she was planning an abortion.

ďIím in a board meeting. Having a miscarriage. Thank goodness, because thereís a (bleeping) 3-week hoop-jump to have an abortion in Wisconsin,Ē the tweet read.

Oh my. Has it really come to this? Is every piece of our lives so important that the details must be spelled out in such a way? Did Trunk really believe she was connecting to the every day working mom by twittering about a welcomed miscarriage?

If you missed it on CNN, the tweet that shouldnít have been caused a maelstrom for Trunk. Many of her female followers jumped off her trail, while others showed their disapproval by writing posts and complaining to Trunk directly.

After the media pounced, Trunk argued that miscarriages are common among women and should be discussed openly. She blogged about it on her Web site.

ďThere are thousands of miscarriages in progress, at work, on any given day. That we donít acknowledge this is absurd. That it is such a common occurrence and no one thinks itís okay to talk about is terrible for women,Ē she wrote.

Indeed, many women have, in fact, suffered miscarriages. Some have suffered multiple ones and I can tell you from experience that itís a private, painful thing. And women who have suffered a miscarriage can (and should) relate to other women suffering from the same experience.

What they canít (and didnít) relate to, however, was Trunkís flippancy about something that causes so much pain for women and couples. They were angered over her announcement that having a miscarriage was easier than going through the hassle of seeking an abortion, a statement that is disgusting to any woman who has ever given birth.

While Trunk continues to dispense her advice to women, she should consider that at the heart of every working womanís struggle lies one very important thing - their children.

SARA VANDEN BERGE is managing editor of the Empire-Tribune. She can be reached at 254-968-2379, ext. 240.